About Me

Adoption from Foster Care Blog

This website is my adoption from foster care blog. These posts are my personal essays –chronicles of our adoption, reflections of my thoughts and feelings, and a valuable strategy to feel less alone.

I am married.  I have three kids.  Two are biological, one adopted. Prior to being a parent, I worked several jobs as a social worker.  I worked with the New York City foster care system.  I counseled adolescents at a psychotherapy clinic.  I led support groups at a public high school.  I conducted mental health assessment interviews with kids and their caregivers at the start of treatment services.  I moved from one coast to the other.  I worked in large metropolitan areas.  I have also been a stay at home parent with a spouse who travels frequently for work.  My pen name is Ahmy York.adoption from foster care blog


People have mixed opinions on writing anonymously. I understand that there is a concern, that readers won’t really know me and won’t be able to connect or relate.  Here are some random facts about me:

  • We adopted all our pets from the Humane Society.
  • We adopted a young girl from the state foster system.
  • When I was a kid, I loved playing with my dolls.  My favorite game was to get them all dressed so that I could hustle them off for their doctor’s appointments.
  • I lived in 10 different apartments while living in the Big Apple.
  • My favorite musicians are Arctic Monkeys, Muse, Of Monsters and Men, Radiohead, and Fiona Apple.  I loved “Amy and Isabelle” by Elizabeth Strout and “I Know This Much is True” by Wally Lamb.  I am really enjoying two tv series, The Leftovers and Fargo (Season 2).
  • I am a major klutz.  Once I tripped over a plastic bag on the sidewalk.  Another time I fell off the curb and down to my knees.
  • I have never tried greek yogurt.  I am worried it will taste like sour cream.

I am writing under a pseudonym for specific reasons.  I want to protect my kids’ identities.  Two of my kids are school age.  My third is still young and not ready to tell her own story.  I want to keep my home life private.  I want to share my struggles — from relationships to employment to raising kids.  I want to be candid and write about what really happens in my life.  No holding back.